First Basic Truth: Life … It’s yours. The life you live is yours and the choices made; easy, hard, good or bad are entirely yours. You can choose to end it. According to the World Health Organisation (WHO) estimates that each year approximately one million people die from suicide, which represents a  one death every 40 seconds.

Second Basic Truth: Life follows a linear path. Mine started January 15, 1964 in a place called Pontiac Michigan and will end ? ⇒ Fun Fact: You have no control at the start but you do at the finish. You can choose when, where and how you’ll die,  unless the Grim Reaper catches you totally by surprise. 

O.K. let’s just stick with these two. My life is just that, MINE. My life has a start and a finish and progresses forward whether I want it too or not.

Let’s take a look at the First Truth. My life is mine has many implications that all point back to me. My life implies my responsibility. Taking responsibility for me is not as hard as you think. Just figure out who me is, and then own it. Here is a post I wrote about that ⇒ Lower the Bar

Taking responsibility for my own stuff implies that I don’t have time to worry about your stuff. There is cool polish saying: 

Translation: I have my own circus full of my own monkeys. I’m sure your monkeys are very nice and you love them very much but their not mine and your circus is all yours like mine is all mine. If you don’t like my monkeys or circus … DON’T BUY A TICKET. I can’t tell you how many problems would be solved and how much better life would be if all of us only worried about our own circus. 

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?

 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?

 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

Mathew 7: 3-5

BTW this also means no one else is responsible for your happiness of sadness. Sure, people pee in my cheerios now and then. But it’s my responsibility to get a new bowl or continue eating …    Read ⇒ The Necessity of Pain to see what I mean.

There is another implication of responsibility I want to touch on. That is the responsibility to help another (when you can). If someone is struggling in choppy water, and if I am not a strong swimmer, nobody expect nor should I attempt a rescue. My responsibility is to get help. Many people (with good intentions) place themselves in a bad situation they should not be in.

This now brings us to the second truth: Life progress forward in a liner pattern until you die. This truth like the other has implications. First is You (John or Sue Public) are only a imttsy bitssy tiny winy story inside a huge gigantic story. Rather than explain what I mean watch ⇒ Midnight in Paris

The biggest thing to keep in mind with the second truth is that there is a past and future. What about the present? What about it? It becomes the past


almost at the same time it happens    I’m just having fun. I’m one those philosophy / psychology goofballs that loves to talk about the absence of a true reality because time is moving so fast. Remember life never stops until you know … it stops forever. Your story may stop forever but it is only one of 7.6 billion according to 2018 world population clock. Think about that, 7.6 BILLION stories all occurring at the same time all the time, some starting and other ending. I live in the future because the present fades so quickly. Every now and then I find myself in the past. Sometimes it is for good memories but more often it’s because someone peed in my cheerios. When I catch myself, I throw out the bowl. Try reading another post ⇒ Driving in the Dark

Do me a solid, consider these two basic truths and I think it will make your circus more enjoyable.



– Reluctant Therapist