Relational will comes in three flavors: voluntary, involuntary and non-voluntary.
Voluntary will is an action taken with no outside influence. It happens when you take control, like when an argument is turning into a fight. In case you didn’t know, fighting is bad. So you give yourself a time-out and QUIETLY say “I’m not going to fight” and walk away.
Involuntary will happens when the guests’ arrive so the argument is postponed.
The Koala message.