As many of you know, I am a reluctant therapist. My reluctance? There are a couple of reasons:
- X-military career guy that was injured, retired, and diverted to the seminary.
- Unemployed educated guy with a pregnant wife who got a job as a counselor.
Wait a minute. That’s not reluctance, it’s serendipity; you know those occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way. The only problem, you never know which will be beneficial or NOT.
This is were FAITH comes on the scene. None of us can tell the future; so why we do try? (read⇒ Driving in the dark ) Faith is not that feeling that everything that happens will be beneficial. It is the feeling, that no matter what happens, it will be o.k. I will adapt, persevere and grow from the experience (read⇒PP 4 U ) Sometimes, the faith you need, is in yourself. It is a feeling in your own strength, it keeps you from quitting the race.
In my serendipitous career I often help people battle doubt (read ⇒ Go Doubt? ) The problem with trying to read the future ; we can’t! Ican’t tell the future but I can tell you the present and if you want to influence the future than change the present, as in, DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT NOW (read ⇒ Time for Change ) → HINT: Things connected together (including people) change when just one of those things (person) changes.
This is the idea behind systems theory and the reason why it only requires one to change a system. I am a marriage and family therapist, a systems therapist, a reluctant systems therapist, a serendipitously reluctant systems therapist 🙄 The point … don’t Worry about another persons behavior, only worry yourself (read ⇒ Stay in YOUR lane ) These are the yahoos that will get in your head if you let them and they will stop you.
I’d like to share my favorite verse. To me it says, Keep the faith in the dark, fight the doubt, keep up the effort to the end of the race.
I have fought the good fight,
I have finished the race,
and I have remained faithful.
2 Timothy 4:7
– Reluctant Therapist